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Some Tips for Writing your Wedding day Vows

When writing your wedding vows, you can be as creative as you want. You have the choice to stick to traditional words or you can write your own. If you’re stuck for ideas, read below for some vows you might like to use or adapt.

Wedding Vow Example 1:
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, so long as we both shall live.

Wedding Vow Example 2:
(name), I have lived with you and I love you. Today I give myself to be your husband and I take you to be my wife. Whatever life may bring, I will love you and care for you always.

Wedding Vow Example 3:
I ask everyone here to witness that I (name), take you, (name), to be my lawful wedded (husband/wife). I will love you, trust you, believe in you as you are, be honest with you, encourage you, support you in your endeavors, care for you and above all else, respect you as a person of equal worth, and with equal rights and responsibilities – in sickness as in health, for better for worse, through all our life together.

Wedding Vow Example 4:
I come here today, (name), to join my life to years before this company. In their presence I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, and to grow with you through the years. Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; no matter what we may encounter together, I vow here that this love will be my only love. I will make my home in your heart from this day forward.

Wedding Vow Example 5:
(Name), with free and unconstrained soul, I give you all I am and all I am to become. Take this ring, and with it my promise of faith, patience, and love, for the rest of my life

Wedding Vow Example 6:
Two flames, one light. (Name), I offer you this ring as a sign of life, and myself as your (husband/wife). Let us walk together always, and let us always walk towards the light.

Special Tips for Toasts and Speeches

Chances are that if you’ve made the effort to look up ‘tips for speech making’, this area isnt quite your forte. Yet. But have no public-speech-related fear! As it turns out, the gap between total amateur and being able to make a speech comfortably isn’t as wide as you’d think. All it takes is the right information and some practice (really). Read through and incorporate our tips to instantly up the ante and surprise the audience when it comes time to make your speech or toast.

When it comes to any form of public speaking, be it a wedding or a conference, the most important thing is to know your audience.
The first component of this is to decide on which tone is most appropriate for your speech. If the affair is a formal one, a speech rooted in humour or sentimental nostalgia might not be the most appropriate. If you’re not sure about the overall tone of the wedding, write your speech how you feel most comfortable, and make adjustments (such as how you address the audience, which jokes or memories you pull or add to the piece, etc) in the half-hour before you’re due to deliver it.
Find out in advance what aspects or points you need to cover. Just as importantly, find out if there are any awkward areas or topics that you should avoid and adjust your speech accordingly. Knowing your audience will help you determine what to say and how to say it.
Don’t rush your speech. The most important rule of good public speaking is to breathe, centre yourself, and try to relax as much as possible.

Make sure the microphone is at the right height before your start your speech. Far better to address the issue first than to soldier on looking awkward or without being heard.

Make eye contact with your audience. Your audience will be more receptive to your speech if you have strong body language, a major component of which is solid eye contact (even if this is onyl held at the beginning of the speech). It will also help you to think of the individuals you are addressing, who happening to be sitting in a group. Many find looking at the audience and thinking about them in these terms helps to relax them. If you find that you can’t quite focus on your speech while making eye contact (a very common complaint), either find a spot on the wall opposite you to continually look at, or scan the space a few inches above the heads of the crowd. No one will be able to notice, we promise.

Don’t slouch. It’s scientifically proven that standing up straight makes you feel more confident and self assured, and your audience will see the difference. Stage presence counts for a lot. Good posture will also help you to project your voice.

Do your best to appear relaxed and natural (ish). If you can, try to look at certain individuals when making your speech as opposed to staring into the back wall. If you make eye contact with people, your speech will be a lot more intimate. Smiling will give the impression that you are at ease. Fake it ’til you make it, baby!

Your speech should be prepared beforehand. Make yourself speech cards with large writing and print clearly. You might even want to use a highlighter and make pauses and paragraphs so that you can see these at a glance. There’s nothing worse than standing in front of an audience, waiting for the perfect off-the-cuff speech to come to you, only to crash and burn publicly.

Watch your language. Not the sweary bits- that should go without saying- but in terms of your use of phraseology. Make sure your language is clear and helps you to get your ultimate points across. Also, try not to repeat the same phrases or specific words multiple times.

If there are guests at the wedding that are particularly conservative or whom you don’t know well (and there are bound to be), try not to include crude jokes into your speech as you do not want to offend anybody. But if the wedding is an informal do where everyone uses that sort of language to humourously express themselves, let ‘er rip! Whatever will add to the joy of the celebration.

Unless you’re the bride, groom, or part of their immediate family, aim to have your speech run under 5 minutes. If you speak for much longer than this, your audience will probably get bored. To ensure you get the timing right, literally time the speech! After you’ve written a draft of your speech that is approximately the right duration, revisit it every now and again and update is as you see fit.

There’s no need to learn your speech by heart. A better option is to become familiar with the speech so that you will speak naturally when giving it. Have your speech cards handy so that you can glance at it from time to time as a refresher. Practice really does make perfect.

Try not to drink too much before it’s your time to speak. On the flip side, if you get very agitated ahead of public speechmaking, perhaps a glass (or two, tops!) of champers might help relax you. Remember that your aim is to deliver your speech as well as possible, and to act in a way that aims to see that goal through. Use your discretion.

On the same lines, always visit the ladies’ in advance to making your speech!

If you can, and if it’ll help, find a private corner of the function (toilet stalls are absolutely fine) just before giving the speech. Use whatever methods you know help calm you down- some like to revert back to a hobby, like sitting down to knit for 5 minutes, other like to do something repetitive, like chewing gum or brushing their hair, whilst others like to spend some time doing a crazy little dance to get all the nervous energy they can out. Don’t worry about accidentally being found out- simply tell your surprise audience that you’re about to give a toast and you’re working out your nerves. They’ll understand, I promise.
At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that you have, in the grand scheme of things, a fairly small role and responsibility- though that’s not to say that it’s not significant! Remembering this should alleviate some pressure that everyone inevitably feels before public speaking. As long as you’re expressing your love and well wishes for the happy couple, the way you say it is a very secondary factor. Any positive speech, no matter what the delivery turns out to be, always serves to enhance the event. So remember to plan ahead, loosen up, speak confidently of love, and you absolutely can’t go wrong.

Know More About Wedding Speech Running Order

The typical running order for wedding speeches can vary depending on religion or culture, or even personal preference. The main objective in this portion of the wedding is to make sure that the guests are in a position to properly pay attention to, and actually enjoy the speeches. So, generally speaking, the speeches are held toward the end of the meal.

Wedding Speech, Microphone, Wedding Reception
Running Order
The running order of wedding speeches is usually as follows:

Guests arrive for drinks
Guests are seated
MC introduces the bridal party and welcomes the guests
Meal is served
Speeches are held
Cutting of the cake
Bridal waltz
Guests invited to dance
The farewell
It’s important to remember, however, that this order is flexible and can be changed. If another order happens to suit your needs better, feel free to switch it up. It helps to think out loud and discuss your options through with your wedding planner/ coordinater or family and friends to work out the best logistical option.

Speech Order
The order of the speeches themselves is similarly dependent on your personal preference. But for the sake of making sure they all run smoothly, decide on an order before the speeches are begun. Traditionally, speeches are made in the following order:

Father of the Bride
Father of the Groom
The Groom
The Bride
The Best Man
Individual Speeches
Each individual’s role and speech generally covers these basics:
Master of Ceremonies:

Controls the order of speeches. He calls for the guests’ attention and either introduces each speaker in turn or just the first speaker.

The Bride’s Father

(Or close friend or relative of the bride’s family) speaks first.The bride’s father will propose a toast to the newlywed couple. What he will speak about will depend on each situation, but he might include:

Welcoming the guests and thanking them for joining both his and the groom’s family
How proud he is of his daughter/family member/friend, often including stories of her growing up and their family life
Welcoming his new son-in-law and the groom’s parents to his family
Advice and well wishes to the couple
Thanking everyone who helped to organise the wedding, including all paid employees
Proposing a toast to the couple at the end of his speech
The Groom

Traditionally speaks next. His speech could include:

Thanking the guests for their attendance
Thanking the bride’s parents for allowing him to marry their daughter, welcoming him into the family
Thanking everyone who contributed to the wedding
Thanking and complimenting the bride, emphasising how lucky he is to have married her
Paying tribute to his own parents- refering to his upbringing, moral guidance, and opportunities given to him through his family
Thanking the page boys, flower girls, ring bearers, and bridesmaids
Thanking his best man, a brief discussion of how important his friendship is to the groom
Thanking his groomsmen for their help in preparing him for the wedding, as well as helping the day to run smoothly
Thank everyone for coming, for their kind wishes and gifts
The Bride

Though not mandatory, the bride may choose to make her own speech. This can vary from a few short words thanking her guests for attending, and how lucky she feels on this day, to her own full-blown version of the groom’s own speech.

The Best Man

Officially, his duty is to reply on behalf of both the groomsmen and the bridesmaids. His speech is traditionally the most casual and fun, and generally includes:

Complimenting the bride and groom and wishing them a lifetime of happiness together
Thanking the groom for asking him to be best man at his wedding
Describe any funny stories about the groom (without mentioning anything too raunchy or any past relationships)
An informal speech or story about the bride and groom, and why they’re well- fitted for one another
Reading out any words from relatives/ particularly good friends who were unable to attend
If there are to be other toasts or additional speeches to be made, they are done so now. These are generally much shorter, and are ordinarily given in the following order:

Toast to the parents by the MC or groomsmen not the best man
Father of the bride
Father of the groom
Groom or Groom and Bride together
Best man
The Master of Ceremonies will then finalise the wedding speeches by encouraging the guests to enjoy the rest of the evening. We suggest you do the same!